<aside> đ A collection of the 3 Pieces of Content I've found the most valuable this week on the internet, with some reflections, key lessons, and why they can add value to our lives. Plus, one thought-provoking quote.
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"Any long term stuckness is likely to be the result of butting in to some sort of law inherited, unknowingly, from childhood."
We are stuck because we are being overly loyal to an idea of something being impossible generated in the distant past. Impossible because it was threatening to someone we cared for, or dependent on, a long time ago.
Liberation comes first from seeing the presence of the law, and then unpicking its unnecessary logic.
Having a why, a set of values and mental models to draw from when choosing the people with whom to do business with is what makes the difference between entering into meaningful relationships and negative ones.
As Simon Sinek argues, we should do business with those people whose values and vision and life principles align with ours, rather than trying to maximize roi and chasing money by saying yes to everything. Trust is a fundamental value to have in any relationship, including business-oriented.
Do business with the people who believe what you believe.
How you do anything is how you do everything.
We borrow our desires from others. Far from being autonomous, our desire for a certain object is always provoked by the desire of another personâthe modelâfor this same object. This means that the relationship between the subject and the object is not direct: there is always a triangular relationship of subject, model, and object.
Humans inherit convictions mimetically from each other â we learn what to value by imitating our peers. ****
Although quitting would have made me happier, I felt like I had nowhere to quit to. My tunnel vision left me with few concrete notions of alternative pursuits, and without a destination, I could not seriously contemplate leaving.
Thatâs the mimetic trap in a nutshell: it hurts to leave, and thereâs nowhere to go. So â Iâve convinced myself that mimetic traps are a real thing, and that I should be worried about them.
Should you? If you find yourself vaguely dissatisfied with your work, unable to describe coherently why youâre doing what youâre doing â yes, you probably should. âWhy does this matter?â is an excellent way to gauge if youâve drifted into a mimetic trap. If you find this question impossible to answer honestly, youâre probably wasting your time. Donât force yourself to do anything you hate. If you get too good at this, you wonât be able to figure out when to quit.
https://www.briantimar.com/notes/mimetic/mimetic/
"It is easy in the world to live after the worldâs opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude."
â Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self reliance