Brave work. Tough conversations. Whole hearts — by Brené Brown

Link to Book: https://daretolead.brenebrown.com/

Summary of the Book: here →

<aside> 🧭 This page presents some notes and highlights from the book "Dare to Lead". You can find a summary of the book at the link above.

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**Simone Smerilli | Newsletter**

• Table of contents

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again … who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly."

—Theodore Roosevelt

• The courage to be vulnerable is not about winning or losing, it’s about the courage to show up when you can’t predict or control the outcome.

Introduction

<aside> 🧭 I define a leader as anyone who takes responsibility for finding the potential in people and processes, and who has the courage to develop that potential.

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• What, if anything, about the way people are leading today needs to change in order for leaders to be successful in a complex, rapidly changing environment where we’re faced with seemingly intractable challenges and an insatiable demand for innovation?

  We need braver leaders and more courageous cultures. (common response of leaders to the question)

• You can’t get to courage without rumbling with vulnerability. Embrace the suck. Courage and fear are not mutually exclusive.

<aside> 🧭 A rumble is a discussion, conversation, or meeting defined by a commitment to lean into vulnerability, to stay curious and generous, to stick with the messy middle of problem identification and solving, to take a break and circle back when necessary, to be fearless in owning our parts, and, as psychologist Harriet Lerner teaches, to listen with the same passion with which we want to be heard.

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• Courage is a collection of four skill sets that can be taught, observed, and measured.

  The four skill sets are:

  1. Rumbling with Vulnerability → this is the foundation. Without vulnerability we cannot become daring leaders.
  2. Living into Our Values
  3. Braving Trust
  4. Learning to Rise

The true underlying obstacle to brave leadership is how we respond to our fear, not fear itself. this reminds me of stoicism and the relevance of how we interpret events as opposed to the events per se.

• Daring leaders must care for and be connected to the people they lead.

Part 1 - Rumbling With Vulnerability