July 20th, 2018

Humans are fickle.

All it takes is a simple poke and question to let a person unleash.

Nick and I are good roommates as well as good friends. We've stress tested the relationship in two apartments and shared a lot of fun, challenging, random, athletic, and late-night moments together here in NYC.

What's funny is this. I could have a shit day at work. It could be just terrible...you argue with a co-founder, users don't show up to a feedback session, and on top of all that, you can't get a citibike before it started raining so you trudge home after the subway ride in the rain. First world problem but a pretty crappy day overall, one you want to forget by the next sunrise.

All this could happen and I wouldn't necessarily barge through the apartment door and share that. It takes a nudge or a simple question from Nick for me to feel comfortable on a social level unleashing the 4 min story. “What's up”, “how's it going”, “I had a weird day today, how 'bout you?” is all that it takes. Just a simple prodding and boom, here comes the story. If he doesn't ask that because he's busy coding, relaxing, or cooking, it won't come up.

If I can't (feeling appropriate or respectful of another's space enough) to proactively bring up a life experience with a great friend who I share an apartment with, then god knows what else isn't being said to other people in my life about more important things.

An outside trigger is incredibly effective. It can get almost anyone talking about anything.

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