I used to be pretty sad and didn’t enjoy my life much, I am now very happy and live a life that is full of meaning
I did that by consuming a TON of self help content while spending a lot of time reflecting and experimenting to figure out what works for me
- To be clear, I’m not done but I think of my life as a beautiful project that I love tinkering with - that was not my perspective 2 years ago

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^^ This was me. If this is you, then I just want you to know that it doesn’t have to be like this. This isn’t just how life is, it can get better
Most of the self help stuff I read wasn’t as specific, comprehensive or actionable as I would have liked (I love a checklist). That or it was too long and trying to sell you something
- I’m also trying to sell you something but that’s using your resources and career to do as much good as you can - I do fine financially.
- However, women do tend to talk themselves out of extra compensation so if you do want to give me money or support me - subscribe to this substack (I’ve pledged to give 10% of my income to the charities that I think can do the most good with them)
When thinking about life, you need to be able to zoom in to the details and zoom out to make sure you’ve not missed anything
The aim of this is to provide a structure to do that
- Planning to make this a live document that will always be hosted here on notion

You are the only person you can sort out your life - no human knows you like you
That said, I recommend working through this with a friend for accountability and support
Most of this is just links to other places, tools and thinkers - I am just your self help librarian
Any advice I give you is based on my own experience and there’s a chance I’m wrong - please think critically
Who I am to give all this unsolicited advice? idk why are you reading this if you’re not interested in what I think. Touch grass or something.

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