Allowing kids to fail and emphasizing effort over innate ability are key strategies for building resilience in children. When parents protect their children from challenge and failure, it can hinder their growth and self-confidence. Studies show that when parents do too much for their children, it can lead to feelings of low self-efficacy. By giving kids the opportunity to navigate challenges themselves, parents show faith in their abilities and communicate that it's okay to make mistakes. Another important strategy is to emphasize effort rather than innate skill or ability. When children are praised for being naturally smart or talented, they may start to see ability as fixed and challenges as signs of incompetence. By emphasizing that intelligence and abilities can be developed through effort and practice, children start to view challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. (Time 0:01:34)