Most Important Concepts:

• Core flaw of feminism was the assumption that because a woman felt powerless that the man must feel powerful.
• If a woman who wishes to be a mom does not consider a young man who earns less than her to be marriage material, then more and more women will have children outside of marriage and without a dad.
  • If fathering was socially acceptable as a male purpose, this problem would be solved.
  • Many young men have more potential raising children than money.
• Historically, it was the sacrifice of men’s lives that led to everyones’s survival. So societies unconsciously taught themselves not to care too much about men’s lives.
• The worst jobs are almost all ”male jobs,” which men take more because they have, on average, more mouths to feed.
• Before industrialization, when diseases, poor healthcare, & malnutrition were the leading causes of death, women and men had approximately equal life expectancies. After industrialization, early deaths are caused more by diseases triggered by stress, and since then men have died sooner than women.

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Chapter Recap:

2014 Personal Introduction

• Just because a man feels powerless does not mean a woman feels powerful.
• Core flaw of feminism was the assumption that because a woman felt powerless that the man must feel powerful.
• What is a boy’s purpose? Today, boys see that preparation for war is not necessary, and that being a sole breadwinner is no longer synonymous with masculinity, and women can raise children on their own.
  • He sees no purpose as a dad, no purpose as a warrior, no purpose as a sole breadwinner.
• If a woman who wishes to be a mom does not consider a young man who earns less than her to be marriage material, then more and more women will have children outside of marriage and without a dad.
  • If fathering was socially acceptable as a male purpose, this problem would be solved.
  • Many young men have more potential raising children than money.

Original introduction 1993

1 - Is male power really a myth? A first glance

• Items of powerlessness:
  • Military draft, based merely on characteristics at birth
  • Life expectancy
  • Suicide rates
    • 0-9: the same
    • 10-14: boys 2x as likely
    • 15-19: 4x
    • 20-24: 6x
    • 85+: 14x
  • Twice as likely to be victim of violent crime
  • Spending power
    • 7x more floor space to womens items
    • Both sexes spend more on women
  • Spending obligation gap
  • Influence power
    • Every woman has influence over the home, very few men have influence over the governmental and religious structures
  • Divorce power
  • My body, my choice power
  • Work obligation gap
    • On average a man worked 61 hours a week, a woman 56. (Includes household work)
  • Expectation to be unpaid bodyguard

2 - How successful men freed women (but forgot to free themselves)

• Essentially, women’s liberation and male midlife crisis were the same search.
• We forget that women who work outside the home are usually exercising the option of paying for the technology that reduced their burden inside the home.
• By calling the difference in pay ”discrination” and not explaining the reasons for the difference, women left angry rather than empowered.