Here's how we can break this down in a practical and self-compassionate way:
You're not weak for being affected. You're not less disciplined. You're just... human. Even the most grounded people get thrown off by those they love most — especially when we’re stretched thin.
Take a moment to say internally:
“Yes, I’m upset. This affected me. And that’s okay.”
This alone can start diffusing the emotional grip.
Her actions — whether spoiled, impulsive, or careless — are hers. They do not subtract from your effort, sacrifice, or character.
You can quietly say to yourself:
“Her being upset doesn’t make me less of a good man or partner. Her silence doesn’t erase the work I’ve done today.”
You said it best: “I do not think it deserves my peace and energy.”
So now, reclaim it.
Pick one small task you were planning to do next. Set a timer for just 10–15 minutes and commit to doing just that. It will help restore your internal rhythm.
You’re not ignoring the pain — you're choosing not to let it hijack the whole day.