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🚀 The Book in 3 Sentences

☘️ How the Book Changed Me

✍️ Top Quotes From the Book

• To reach irrational people, you need to know why they’re irrational.
• But if you counterintuitively push your hand deeper into the dog’s mouth, the dog will release it.
• Albert Einstein once said, “The most important decision you will ever make is whether you live in a safe or a dangerous world.”
• So before you tackle the bruising challenge of talking to crazy, make sure you have a good reason to go there.
• Remember: You can’t always change the people around you. But you can change the people you’re around.
• The first is that you aren’t the cause of this person’s turmoil. The second is that it’s not your job to fix it. And the third is that the person needs the kind of help.
• The bottom line: If you’re not too heavily invested in your relationship with a personality-disordered person, consider getting out.
• Unless you’re the first entirely sane person on the planet, you’re carrying around your own suitcase full of crazy.
• And in order to successfully face down another person’s crazy, you first need to deal with your own.
• To see other people in the best light, and to allow them to see you in the best light, you need to explore your own worldview—and, if necessary, change it.
• The first is to calm yourself down in the initial moments following the disaster, and the second is to keep yourself from doing something stupid if you can’t calm yourself down.
• Most breakdowns lead to breakthroughs.
• If the person responds in a negative way, don’t be discouraged. Realize that just because you apologize doesn’t mean the other person can comprehend or accept it.