I'm currently reading books on specific the roles of husband and father, wife and mother and hope to update this page by January 2021.
Holding Hands, Holding Hearts is a sane, Christian perspective on dating.
Catching Foxes: A Gospel-Guided Journey to Marriage is probably the best book for most couples looking for something to help them prepare for marriage.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is a goldmine of advice and help, as is John Gottman’s similar book, The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships. And one more: The Man's Guide to Women. While these books are not written from a Christian perspective and show it, Gottman and his research team have learned so much from general revelation that Christians should learn and follow. These books also debunk some common myths and include many questionnaires and exercises for you to work through.
On Marriage and Family Life shares one ancient Christian perspective on marriage. It’s good to get out of the modern rut. You will notice things you wouldn’t otherwise.
Don’t Fear the Sex Recession debunks some myths about the frequency of intimacy.
The chapter on sex in The Way That Leads There: Augustinian Reflections on the Christian Life by Gilbert Meilanender and the article, “In Praise of the Humble Condom”, give helpful guidance on questions around contraception. For more on this and other issues related to the beginning of life (marriage, procreation, contraception, infertility, assisted reproduction, abortion, stem-cell research), read David VanDrunen’s Bioethics and the Christian Life: A Guide to Making Difficult Decisions.
Building a Godly Home is a three-volume set of books written by eminent puritan William Gouge. Much better theology than almost any marriage book available today with lots of careful applications of Scripture.