✅Sometimes you desperately do need to change something. If you keep hammering at your failing business, you will drain your family’s finances and be left with nothing. If you don’t clean up your diet, you’re going to die a decade earlier than you need to. If you don’t get out of a bad relationship, you’ll never find a happy one. Maybe more often, perhaps much more often, though, you’re just getting bored and looking for something new and fun. You’re addicted to “new,” and your neophilia is impeding the progress or satisfaction you could have if you just pushed through the boring period and kept going. Most of us have no idea how much better we can feel, but if we’re constantly looking for ways to feel better, then we’ll end up running in circles.

The uncomfortable truth is that you can never know if you’re on the right mountain. A certain amount of searching helps, but you eventually have to say, “This is the one and I’m gonna climb the shit out of it.” Our inner neophiliac doesn’t want us to commit because they cut us off from new things we could play around with. But the deepest long-term satisfaction seems to come from focusing intently on something, someone, someplace, rather than constantly jumping around to new ones. (View Highlight)