And I’m still learning how to stop treating it like one

By Kimberly L.


“I didn’t believe love could just be given. I thought it had to be earned— with beauty, with usefulness, with silence, with sacrifice.”


For a long time, I thought love was conditional.

That to be loved, I had to be:

That belief didn’t come out of nowhere.

It came from family. From old dynamics. From survival.

From watching love get handed out based on who was the least “difficult.”


I learned to do love—not to receive it.

To earn it.

To prove it.

To trade pieces of myself in exchange for scraps of affection.