Illustration by Ronja Polzin — roevardotter.de/

Each player finds ways they are afraid of being seen. The group then agrees to support each other in trying on those "out of character" selves and reflecting on the experience.

• Step 1 — A brainstorm

• Step 2 — Find the »scary opposites« of the list above

• Step 3 — Play the game

• Step 4 — Journal and Share

Watch out for these common mistakes

• Try to be as specific about your »scary opposite« as you can. The most illuminating phrases will make your heart beat faster and your stomach turn.
• It's best to act from actual impulses. Play-acting is okay if nothing genuine comes up... e.g., if your word is sexist and no sexist thoughts or impulses emerge. Longer formats allow people to be more naturally out of character.
• Don't criticize people for their Out of Character behavior. They already know what is bad about it. Focus on what they might not see: What is good about it?
• Remind people to use common sense: don't touch people, break laws, or damage property unless the group consents to those boundaries beforehand.
• Be gentle with yourself; it's not a competition.

Examples of Good and Bad Use

BAD EXAMPLES