A "Frame Up" is a lightweight, yet highly effective conversation framework to gain alignment, clarity & synchronicity with other people.
We adapted ours from the wonderful Kyle Savage, who created the framework to build intimacy with her long-distance partner Bob. Cultivating intimacy and closeness when you're worlds apart (Australia - USA in Kylie & Bob's case) can be a challenge. But, let's face it - relationships of any kind need attention, work and investment to flourish no matter the proximity.
We use the "frame-up" on a weekly basis (every Sunday in fact) in our relationship. However, that might not work for you, so you could use it for a specific event or period of time. We've found it works particularly well each time we head into a new context, (e.g. before a new bikepacking trip, prior to moving to a new country, from weekend to workweek et al). This helps us stay aligned, voice our expectations and remain grateful for one another.
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š NOTE
: The key to a great frameup is to ask the question, and then hold space for the other person to explore and reflect on the question, before moving on.
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Kylie summaries holding space beautifully (so we use her definitions):