Episode 40: Reflection on Being the Oldest Daughter

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Description:

This week's reflection episode is about my experience and my take on being the oldest daughter. I share my experiences, some universal experiences, and the common childhood trauma of the oldest daughter.

In this episode, I share:

• My personal experience & traumas as the oldest daughter.
• Common characteristics of the oldest daughter (codependency, hyper-independency, controlling behavior, cautious discretion, hyper-empathy, people-pleasing, etc.).
• A playlist I created for the oldest daughter & reasons why some of those songs are on there.

My Outline for this Episode:

• Codependency
  • Prioritizing other’s needs
  • Terrified of change
• Hyper-Independence/Extreme Self-Reliance
  • Fear of asking for help
  • Fear of admitting when you're struggling
  • Fear of admitting when you're wrong
  • Struggle to trust others
• Being Emotionally Distant
  • Fearing intimacy
  • Appearing “cold and distant” from an outside perspective
• Cautious Discretion (I relate to this one the most)
  • Constantly over-analyzing one’s actions
  • Fearing putting yourself out there
  • Perfectionism
  • Had to grow up fast, while our siblings got to make mistakes
• “Golden Child”
  • Always getting good grades
  • Being the invisible child, the one “no one has to worry about” not because we don’t have our own struggles, but because we learned that we have to hide them.
• Controlling Behavior
• People Pleasing Behavior
• Hyper-Empathy
• Protective of the People We Love/Become Caretakers

Songs From My “oldest daughter” Playlist:

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4k3A8sKpYMdhHwLwJiCuQd?si=4e1jYtDySfSgZgGaORPJCg