What!?!?!? Blasphemy!!! Did a man just say that? Yes gents, I know it may seem like I’m shooting us in the foot here… but trust me, this will benefit everyone in the long run.

Women are, and always have been the smarter gender. And you have several methods at your disposal for exerting control over your male counterparts. For example, you know that by playing the “innocent, unknowing girl” card, you can get a guy to fix anything around the house. And that’s completely OK… because you get the pleasure of a fixed light switch and the man gets to feel heroic. (assuming you don’t want to fix it yourself, of course)

One of the greatest tools in your toolkit is, “The Challenge.” Most men simply cannot turn away from a challenge made by a girl. We thrive off of it. It’s hard enough for us to back off from a challenge posed by a guy… but backing off from a girl isn’t an option. Just try asking a guy if he’s strong enough to open that jar…

And yes: we typically relish in the chase/hunt/challenge that often occurs at the start of the relationship. We need to earn the woman – prove to her that we are worthy.

Except: when a woman sleeps with a man on the first date. Then there’s no hunt, no challenge, no mystery, no nervousness. Some say that in our modern age we’ve evolved past the need to play games early in a relationship… but I believe that these challenges create an even greater aura of value around the woman. And the small victories along the way (a kiss, a touch, a make-out, a feel, etc.) are shared experiences that create the base of memories that serve as the foundation for a relationship.

At this point, there are probably some female readers fuming with anger, thinking something similar to: “As modern women, we can have sex whenever we want and with whomever we want. We don’t need to adhere to traditional norms.” I don’t disagree at all… and if you’ve read my other blogs or met me in person, you know I embrace the modern woman’s sexuality.

However: young women often complain that today’s men aren’t good men. That they aren’t gentlemen. That they just want to get laid and move on. Well… I hate to burden you with the responsibility, but if you want men to be gentleman, you should be a lady. So don’t have sex on the first date. A kiss and an embrace are enough to tell us that you are interested and that there is more in store if we earn it. And perhaps most importantly: you don’t need to sleep with a guy to prove your worth.

One last disclaimer before I finish (and await the onslaught of nasty comments): the obvious risk is that the relationship becomes more about overcoming the challenge than about being together. One gal had a suitor call on her for over a year. And when she finally gave him the opportunity to have sex, he lost interest. The lesson: don’t give it up on the first date… but don’t wait for more than 2 months… because by then we might get frustrated or fixated on the challenge instead of on you.

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