Facts About Loneliness
- Everyone likes to be alone; no one likes to be lonely.
- Being alone is fine. We need time by ourselves.
- Being lonely is not fine. We are made
- Large portions of Americans are disconnected from normal connecting institutions. And many report chronic loneliness. Social media is generally hurting more than helping loneliness. But COVID-19 has not made a big difference.
- Loneliness is the sorrowful feeling of having become disconnected from others when a connection is felt to be needed. To use standard definition, loneliness occurs when the quantity and quality of connections we have is less than we want. [Source.] It is commonly accompanied by despair and anger. More on definitions of feelings.
- People can be lonely in different ways. "Social loneliness refers to longing for an absent social network, whereas emotional loneliness refers to longing for an absent intimate, close, and emotional attachment (Weiss, 1973)." [Source] Knowing which a person is feeling can help know how to help them.
- Meaningful connection is also a biological need.
- Loneliness is terrible for your physical health, worse than obesity. [Holt-Lunstad, 2010]
- Loneliness is likely to increase your risk of death by 26% (Holt-Lunstad, 2015).
- Loneliness is worse for you than obesity. (Holt-Lunstad, 2010)
- From my experience as a pastor, people have really weird ideas and unrealistic expectations about friendship.
- People don't know how to be alone in a healthy way. Learn more in Digital Minimalism.
- People are looking for connection in other people that only God can provide. Ironically, this makes you "needy" which is a big turn off to potential friends.
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