Recently, I did an experiment that gave me some clarity on what I care about. For Day 13, I thought I’d share that with you all:
Close your eyes. Imagine you are 100 years old and it is your birthday, and a few friends are gathered around a table. On top of the table sits a birthday cake, with a few lit candles. There is silence in the room. As you close your eyes and lean in to blow the candles, what images flash in your mind? What did you most value about your life? What are you most grateful for?
Before I share what images came to my mind, I’d urge you to close your eyes and do the experiment yourself.
The following images appeared for me:
What I found interesting about the experiment was that nothing else mattered. I didn’t care how many pounds I could deadlift in my twenties, what grade I got in school, how much money I earned, or how many matches I got on dating apps. All that I cared about was captured in these four images.
It also felt meaningful to recognize the importance of images 1, 2, and 3. A lot of my efforts are focused on career, and I wonder how much day-to-day unhappiness comes from neglecting the non-career aspects of our lives.
If you haven’t already, I would love if you could close your eyes and do the experiment. I want to hear what images come to your mind. They may be similar, but I want to hear what you learn about yourself that you hadn’t realized before. Take care!